tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3246938970680899524.post1250525157410533921..comments2018-07-06T09:37:02.160-07:00Comments on Allan Katz- Parenting by the Book: Devarim 73 – Resolving the Heart of the Conflict and baseless HatredAllanKatzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01832588840708909428noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3246938970680899524.post-29165274910708760162013-07-10T01:55:19.372-07:002013-07-10T01:55:19.372-07:00Thanks Nicolas for recommending the Arbinger Insti...Thanks Nicolas for recommending the Arbinger Institute<br /><br />It is a challenge not to ' objectify ' people when one lives in a very sectarian society or belongs to a union or employers group that is in conflict with others. The same goes for individual in legal battles. |If one does not ' objectify' the other as a ' cheat' , you won't 'plan for the worst and you will be eaten alive. On the other hand problems are usually best solved when parties decide to sit down and work things out together so one needs to be able to switch modes. AllanKatzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832588840708909428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3246938970680899524.post-81662738677022165582013-07-09T06:17:44.536-07:002013-07-09T06:17:44.536-07:00I've read two of the Arbinger Institute books,...I've read two of the Arbinger Institute books, and have found them very important in improving the ways I look at others. The principles go hand-in-hand with SDT's concept of autonomy support: it's not the behaviours per-se that define the quality of our relationship, it's how we feel about the person when we engage in these behaviours. <br /><br />I find it a daily struggle to overcome the tendency to objectify others!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com